Looking at my last post, I was feeling a little guilty that most of the things I wanted to do were materialistic. I also have things I want to do that are more substantial than that, so here is that list.
1. Gratitude: Life is hard and its easy to complain but I need to remember to be grateful for the life that I have and remember that not everybody is as lucky. One of the songs I love from the wonderful Meghan Trainor is called “Champagne Problems”, which talks about this exact thing. I need to remember to be grateful, especially when I have something to complain about.
2. Holding Back in Conversations: There will always be people in your life that are difficult to talk to. People always have a difference of opinion. I’m beginning to realize, however, that I don’t always have to dignify snarky comments with a response. It’s not always my place or worth it to defend my opinions/thoughts. Sometimes it’s okay to just let the other person say their piece and let it go [let Elsa start singing lol].
3. Make Decisions: THIS IS A BIGGIE! I have always had a hard time making decisions [see post a few years ago], even for the most basic thing like what to eat or what to watch. One of the “getting ready for preschool” Disney songs my son listens to talks about choosing between two things and it really is that simple. I tend to take things too serious and stress myself out over making a decision that realistically has no bearing on my life’s course. Not every decision deserves the amount of attention that I give it, so I need to get better with that.
[here's the link to the cute song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Qo-dojsSzs]
4. Have Confidence: ANOTHER BIGGIE! I really need to work on my self-confidence. I’ve always struggled, but there must be a reason why so many people think so highly of me. I don’t know if my confidence can come from a book, from music, or from reading affirmations. I believe that when I’m confident I will be more likely to go for what I want and make more educated decisions. I need to put myself in positions where I prove to myself that I can succeed, thus making me feel confident. There is also a level of “fake it til you make it” that I can work on. Here is a quote that makes me giggle but hits home from Albert Einstein; "everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it's stupid". I need to set myself up for success and the confidence will come.
5. Make Myself a Priority: THE BIGGEST! I am an incredibly supportive person to my family and friends, but not so much to myself. I HATE disappointing people (especially my mama) but I don’t seem to mind disappointing myself. I make plans and say that I’m going to do things but then I make an excuse or don’t do it for some reason. This is about more than making time for “me time”, this is about self-love (not being selfish) and knowing that if I’m not at my best, how can I keep up with taking care of everyone else, showing love to everyone else, and being the best mom/wife/daughter/friend/teacher/person I can be. I am a unique, rare, wonderful person and I need to start showing her some respect.
There will never be anyone like….
[here's the link to the cute song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Qo-dojsSzs]
4. Have Confidence: ANOTHER BIGGIE! I really need to work on my self-confidence. I’ve always struggled, but there must be a reason why so many people think so highly of me. I don’t know if my confidence can come from a book, from music, or from reading affirmations. I believe that when I’m confident I will be more likely to go for what I want and make more educated decisions. I need to put myself in positions where I prove to myself that I can succeed, thus making me feel confident. There is also a level of “fake it til you make it” that I can work on. Here is a quote that makes me giggle but hits home from Albert Einstein; "everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it's stupid". I need to set myself up for success and the confidence will come.
5. Make Myself a Priority: THE BIGGEST! I am an incredibly supportive person to my family and friends, but not so much to myself. I HATE disappointing people (especially my mama) but I don’t seem to mind disappointing myself. I make plans and say that I’m going to do things but then I make an excuse or don’t do it for some reason. This is about more than making time for “me time”, this is about self-love (not being selfish) and knowing that if I’m not at my best, how can I keep up with taking care of everyone else, showing love to everyone else, and being the best mom/wife/daughter/friend/teacher/person I can be. I am a unique, rare, wonderful person and I need to start showing her some respect.
There will never be anyone like….
That's where I'm at right now... cheers to the last year of my twenties...much more self-reflection is happening. :)